We all communicate in a variety of ways every day. The fact is human beings are born to communicate. And the number of ways we can communicate has never been greater than today. In fact, some of our most prevalent communication mediums today didn't exist twenty years ago. Unfortunately (though probably predictably), an abundance of tools hasn't necessarily made us better communicators. My case in point today? Social media. Let's explore what we can learn about effective (or not) communication from social media. Let's start at the beginning. Effective communication is more than sending messages to an audience. Effective communication is message sent, message, received, message understood. While I have seen conversations in a comment thread allow people to create true mutual understanding, those instances are rare. The challenges of creating "message sent, and message understood" aren't solely those of the various social media channels. Chances are you have been in an email thread that went sideways and created frustration and conflict. Did the next email message correct it? Chances are you unraveled the communication and relieved the frustration with a phone call -- something that isn't likely happening after a social media miscommunication. Personally, I can cite many positives for some social media channels -- it has brought distant members of my family closer together and has created or renewed bonds with classmates and people from my hometown. These channels can facilitate people with common interests to bond and learn from each other. In these ways, it is hard to argue the positive value of these channels and their ability to create a platform for communication. This means that while social media isn't always the cause of communication problems, these same channels are causing communication challenges and for many creating bad communication habits that are spreading beyond these online platforms. The problems with communication on social media platforms don't solely belong to these platforms, but some of the biggest communication mistakes are easily repeated there. Examples are: When you look at these challenges, you see one thing in common -- an internal focus. Each of these points center on the sender and their need to say something, but they don't necessarily relate to and definitely don't promote effective communication. Again, all of these things happen in media other than the "social" ones, but social media makes all of these mistakes more prevalent and can support bad habits in other communication situations. There is more that could be said about the challenges of social media communication, like the creation of communication with anonymity, which rarely improves communication outcomes. When people take their anonymous communication habits into more personal or professional realms, communication results will be poor, and trust and relationships can be damaged as well. But rather than simply beating up social media for poor communication (this wouldn't be the first post to do that), let's take some positives from these lessons. Many of us (including me) have made mistakes like the ones listed above -- and not only on social media but in many communications situations. Rather than shaking our heads at how others are mangling communication, let's use that experience to improve ours. Here are three quick examples: There are more lessons than these three. If you see others as you read and reflect, please apply them. But you can start with these three â when you apply these three ideas, you will become a more effective communicator, regardless of your communication medium or platform.Communication Basics
Helpful or Harmful?
The Problems
Taking Positive Lessons